16 April 2011

A Mother's Heartbreak

Lola's birthday party was today. For the first time she invited her own friends to celebrate turning four with. I wanted to do the Waldorf thing and invite the same number of friends as her age, four. Turns out I was wrong. The total number of the party should have been four, according to Rudolf Steiner. Lola on the other hand, invited all of her friends.

In the end it didn't matter because only one friend showed up.

Lola was disappointed, of course, but I am downright heartbroken. And angry. I am very upset with the mothers of three of her friends (one mother had called and canceled because they were going out of town for a family visit). How can they do this to a little girl? Just this morning we ran into one of her friends and her mother at the Y. That mom had called to let me know both she and her daughter were coming, sending me into a frenzy to purchase some adult snacks in addition to the toddler stuff. And then she doesn't show or call.

I just don't understand. Nor do I know what to do about it. I will most likely end up ignoring it. But truth be told, I would really like to give these people a piece of my mind. Ryan is ready to take the day off and wait for them outside Lola's daycare. I'll tell you one thing. I feel a lot less sad about leaving Rhinelander and sending Lola to yet another daycare/preschool.

And if anyone wants to come over this week, we have plenty of cake, snacks, beverages, and homemade party favors left over. If you don't mind lending a hand because we are in the midst of moving...


  1. Hanneke, this is just unbelievable that parents could be so insensitive...we are just shattered about this...Lola's first party!

  2. I love to find life lessons in these kind of moments, but quite frankly, I am not seeing one here. It's just unacceptable, and as everyone has said heartbreaking, for all of you!

  3. That stinks. Fortunately, Lola is so cheerful she will probably forget all about it, leaving the fretting, fuming and stewing to us moms. As if you didn't have enough going on now.

    (I do have Lola's birthday gift here, unsure where to send it. Crandon? Rhinelander? Save it for an in-person delivery?)

  4. My heart breaks for Lola. That is unbelievably rude and thoughtless and unkind behavior from those parents--shame on them! I hope the friends she makes at school have parents who treat others with better respect.


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